Well, I dont exactly like routines. I cant wait to break free.
Everytime, I wanna give up, I look at my feet and got reminded of “how hard i worked for it” And i shouldnt be giving up only now. I should really persevere till the end.
DONT BE A LOSER WHO GIVES UP HALFWAY.
Still remember, 2 years ago when I was in army, I was yearning to study. But now, I’m quite bored of it. Cant for for year 2 to end.
I’m gonna start doing new things, finding new interest and spark in life.
I believed many must have seen this video before, as it has been circulating on Facebook for days; being shared by many of your friends. So it’s not exaggerating to say that more that half the population has already seen this video.
I posted this video on my blog not with the intention of sharing it. But it’s just gonna serve as a reminder to myself.
Don’t you guys think that the storyline of the video is so scarily true? Isnt that the few stages that couples go through.
We desperately look for that ‘someone’ amongst the sea of strangers, thinking that we actually like them. Like them for their looks, body or even character. Eventually, we convince ourselves that they are the ‘one’ for us. Self-fulfilling prophecy much?
It’s sad that humans tend to treat people whom they just know and want to know better nicer. Just like in the video, both of them were so nice and understanding to each other, accommodating each other even though it’s not to their liking. The guy actually ‘liked’ running because it was the only time he could spend time with the girl initially. Initially, he bothered to put in that extra amount of effort to do activities for her.
As true as depicted in the video, as time goes by someone stops. Someone stops trying. Cause they are tired. They stopped putting in that extra amount of effort. Just because they have known each other for such a long time and they are very comfortable with each other. They then start to take each other for granted. Just like how we actually take our parents for granted? Thinking that they will always be there for us. But things change, and it aint within our control.
I’ve missed the honeymoon stage. Seemingly the sweetest stage but i think that it is actually the scariest stage. The stage where most ‘timeless’ timebombs would be buried. Most beautiful memories are jotted down but these beautiful memories actually become painful recollection when things start to turn sour. They become timebombs that would ignite any moment. When you visit the same place, when you hear the same name, when you smell the same fragrance, they hurt you so quickly and intensely just like timebombs. But you dont know when they would ignite. Scary?
The downhill. The inevitable. As much as we want to avoid it. We seemingly cant do anything much about it. Or perhaps the zest is just lacking and you cant find it anywhere. Both parties just got tired of trying. They did try. But perhaps, the deadline that they thought would never come, is actually slowly creeping it’s way.
Breakup. Probably the next best solution to prevent any further hurt. Painful but essential.
When at honeymoon, who would have imagined that the downhill and breakup would happen? What happened to the fact that you guys were like glue a few months before? Scary that things could actually change so much? From seeing each other everyday to not bothering to text/call, to zero phonecalls in future. When he/she was actually so close your heart? THE CHANGE IS SO DRASTIC?!
From strangers to friends, friends to couple, couple to spending everyday together, to a little of hatred, to disappointment and to total stranger again, just like before? Did they actually work so hard just to become strangers again?
Fundamentally, we fall into a relationship just so we think that we would be happier than when compared to being single. True enough, at some point of time we were really much happier. But, i believe that you can be happy single too. If you wanna be happy. BE happy.
The probably serves as a reminded to myself of why i should be single. The part about the fact that we were once so very close but then suddenly we fall back down to the beginning or even worst, seriously scares me. In the process of trying to climb up higher, we actually fail so badly that we fall so deep down, not being able to rise up again. Probably one reason why i think that friends should never become a couple. If you’re happy as good friends then stay as good friends? When you guys become a couple, you tend to become more critical, then that’s when things start to change. As friends, everything is more light-hearted and taken with a pinch of salt. Ain’t that good? Notice that you seldom quarrel with your friends, but quarrel more often with your partner? Because we are expect less of our friends but we expect so much more from our partners. So actually, staying as friends is better right?
So why did people actually wanna ‘advance’ from friends to couple? In hope of being ‘close’? Physically close or what? So that you guys could have some intimate physical contact that you enjoy? Cuddle on lonely nights and sleep together? Or even have sex just because he/she is the hottest guy/girl around? Then why dont you guys just be open and be FWB – Friends With Benefits? No strings attached? Ain’t it better? No emotional baggage.
People get into a relationship for various reasons. It could be for the sex, for the money, for the company, for whatever. Personally, I haven found my reason yet. Probably till then, I will stay single. Or until I meet someone who can convince me otherwise. If not, i think being single is better. So carefree! =D
